Amanda. 23. UNC grad. Real job in school admin. Queer Radical. Feminist. Ask me anything you like. Call me out if I say something shitty.

mymompickedthisurl:

ladyzolstice:

gaywings:

meowkait:

television show idea:

men who relentlessly pursue people with inappropriate messages on ok cupid are forced to read everything they’ve said in front of a live studio audience.

i want a petition for this

 

slight modification: they have to read them to their mother

Tuesday, 15 April 2014
Monday, 14 April 2014

gradientlair:

[content warning: rape, rape culture, misogyny, misogynoir, street harassment]

@Crommunist shared some really important tweets about this “men are hunters” crap that gets used to justify everything from street harassment to rape. I really appreciate his commentaries on rethinking masculinity outside of a patriarchal framework. Here he conveys how male self-hatred and devaluation in patriarchy is what would make such a description justifiable to a man. Clearly patriarchal thinking harms men as well; it justifies them dehumanizing themselves as an excuse to harm women and be oppressive.  

A Black woman and mutual follower on Twitter recently described a street harassment experience (and of course I can relate to this, as you know) and a Black man replied to her about men being “hunters” and that she shouldn’t take street harassment (at night no less) personal. What? 

See, the “hunter” thing is an especially dangerous perspective for Black men to take on. While doing so might make them feel like “peers” with patriarchal White men, because of racism and the history of dehumanization of Black men’s bodies and masculinity, the “hunter” thing simply becomes the “brute” controlling image type. And despite the fact that White men basically sexually assault White women with impunity, Black men still remain the face of the rapist in society while the face of the victim/survivor is always a White woman. Nevermind that the actual reality of violence that Black men inflict on Black women is erased by the aforementioned racist conception or that with the exception of Native women (who White men primarily rape, in addition to White women), most rape occurs intraracially anyway.

Men who ascribe to this cruel dehumanization of themselves to justify violence against women as “natural” need to think about why they think this is okay. They say this so effortlessly which of course reveals patriarchal socialization. It doesn’t get any easier to hear and worse is when they say it while women are recounting street harassment/sexual assault experiences and seeking support among other women online. Derailing women speaking about abuse to justify the abuse in any way is also abuse.

dykes-are-fucking-great:

harpersbazaar:

Best Dressed: Color Code
Photo Credit: Getty Images

I love that outfit on her :)

This is basically how I want to dress. But dressing like a tomboy when you’re thin somehow comes out as nice and feminine. I feel like most of the time it’s hard for me to achieve this look as someone bigger because it always turns out kinda butch, and I’m not. It’s hard when something so easily pulled off by thin people seems butch looking or sloppy when I wear it. I really want to look awesome and sleek in dress pants but alas, I probably never will. 

dykes-are-fucking-great:

harpersbazaar:

Best Dressed: Color Code

Photo Credit: Getty Images

I love that outfit on her :)

This is basically how I want to dress. But dressing like a tomboy when you’re thin somehow comes out as nice and feminine. I feel like most of the time it’s hard for me to achieve this look as someone bigger because it always turns out kinda butch, and I’m not. It’s hard when something so easily pulled off by thin people seems butch looking or sloppy when I wear it. I really want to look awesome and sleek in dress pants but alas, I probably never will. 

lakotapeopleslawproject:

53% of #SouthDakota's foster children are #Lakota, even though only 12% of children are Lakota. Grandmothers are illegally denied custody of their grandchildren everyday. This injustice has been going on for decades, and stretches far beyond current Governor Daugaard.The answer is tribal foster care programs- and ending the payday for state officials. Learn more:http://lakota.cc/IIaGPC

lakotapeopleslawproject:

53% of #SouthDakota's foster children are #Lakota, even though only 12% of children are Lakota. Grandmothers are illegally denied custody of their grandchildren everyday. 
This injustice has been going on for decades, and stretches far beyond current Governor Daugaard.
The answer is tribal foster care programs- and ending the payday for state officials. Learn more:http://lakota.cc/IIaGPC

"I will have an undergraduate class, let’s say a young white male student, politically-correct, who will say: “I am only a bourgeois white male, I can’t speak.” … I say to them: “Why not develop a certain degree of rage against the history that has written such an abject script for you that you are silenced?” Then you begin to investigate what it is that silences you, rather than take this very determinist position-since my skin colour is this, since my sex is this, I cannot speak… From this position, then, I say you will of course not speak in the same way about the Third World material, but if you make it your task not only to learn what is going on there through language, through specific programmes of study, but also at the same time through a historical critique of your position as the investigating person, then you will have earned the right to criticize, you be heard. When you take the position of not doing your homework- “I will not criticize because of my accident of birth, the historical accident” - that is the much more pernicious position."

Gayatri Spivak 

HOLY SHIT YES YES YES

(via adornoble)

it’s also SUCH a reverse victimization thing like

when ~antiracist allies~ say this shit it always includes this sort of faux-self-deprecating element

and intentionally or not, there’s the implication that we white people in general are being ~silenced~ by the ~cruel~ person of color, and that ~oh no we’ve been taught to hate ourselves for our whiteness and believe all these self-deprecating things~ which of course is EXACTLY the white guilt script that more blatantly racist whites looking at this will want to see as more ‘justification’ to dismiss analysis of racism.

and it’s inevitably framing people of color as mean or angry or ~reverse racist~ and ourselves as beleaguered; it’s inevitably fishing for compliments, for coddling, for having the conversation recentered around us and derailing the actual conversation taking place.

(via impromptuonedykedanceparty)

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I want to get back to this, because I feel it’s tricky using phrases like ‘silenced’ etc. It seems TOO easy to fall into the victimization mindset those who want to KEEP the status quo would hold on to. And way too easy for others who want cookies and pats on the back to NOT listen and SPEAK over others - “I took classes in this, I EARNED the right to speak.” I think there’s a valid reason there’s so much ‘shut up, listen, learn’. And ‘your voice is ALREADY heard’.

I think it makes more sense to say; “learn so you know why and when NOT TO SPEAK when PoC and other Marginal Cultural People are speaking. But learn the history TOO speak, TO YOUR OWN KIND / YOUR OWN FOLK. And then DO that. “

I don’t think that quote is clear enough on the fact that progressivism isn’t lackadaisical. It’s not enough to SAY: “I’m not racist or sexist or queerphobic.” And it’s not enough to just step back, and watch others speak AND take all the flack. The point is TO NOT BE ISMIST. To actively not BE it. To risk discomfort.

In a sense, not risking discomfort is holding on to a different kind of status quo.

(via seekingwillow)

Sunday, 13 April 2014

total-queer-move:

LOOK. IT’S EVERY SINGLE STEREOTYPE ABOUT MEN’S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS PUT INTO ONE HANDY-DANDY DEMOGRAPHICS SURVEY SO IT CAN BE STATISTICALLY VALIDATED!! [x]

THANKS R/MENSRIGHTS!!

Omfg

Saturday, 12 April 2014
"Stay Stay Stay" by Taylor Swift

likeaperfectrhyme13:

Stay Stay Stay - Taylor Swift

Daydreaming about real love…

 
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